No sex drive and a ‘tanking libido’: how I redefined

These days, sex is less like a straight line with an endpoint, and more like a series of loops and swirls

Talking with women my age, sex – specifically, a lack thereof – comes up frequently. One friend referred to her “tanking libido”; another sent a text that read “sex drive” followed by two thumbs-down emojis.

I relate to both, and even more to a stranger who asked me to write about “the ways we redefine intimacy”.