He should have talked about this before moving in, says Philippa Perry. I’m on amber alert here…
The dilemma I met a friend at work four years ago. At the start, he told me he had stronger feelings for me than just friends and while he was never pushy physically, he did become clingy – messaging constantly over different social-media platforms, seeking me out at work and even intervening if, on a work night out, he felt that I was getting on too well with a different male colleague. I told him many times in no uncertain terms that I wasn’t interested but, in the end, to make it stop, I told him that I’m a lesbian. Even then, he let other colleagues believe we were more than just friends. I think he liked people to think we were together, even though we weren’t.
He then bought a house practically next door to me without telling me – I find it hard to believe this is a coincidence. He has also started coming to work events that he knows I attend – events he has never had any interest in before. I tend to say no to his invitations and I am not as responsive to his messages as I used to be. He just doesn’t get the hint.
